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Love Grows Up (It Perfects)

PASTOR WIL: Finishing what you started.  You’ll find somebody that’s gonna work with you today, they look like hell, so you find somebody else.  (Laughter.)   

Find a neighbor, look at them in their eyeball and say, “Neighbor,” come on, look at ‘em and say, “Neighbor, love always grows up, always goes up, and always finishes up.”  So let’s talk about that, let’s talk about that today.  Love always grows up, uh-huh. 

DR. GRACE: The first reason people don’t experience victory is because they don’t grow up.

PASTOR WIL: Paul said when I was a child, I, I behaved as a child, he said, this was what, and, and so, when we first got together, we was just children.  When you first join the church, when you first start at the job, when you first fell in love, you was a child.  That was childish love, that was baby love, and, and so, that’s the, uh, and we got to understand that.  

DR. GRACE: So when we first fall in love, it always comes with imperfections.  There are the imperfections of not having all the knowledge.  “Oh.  I didn’t know that.”

PASTOR WIL: “I didn’t know you was gonna be this way.”  Yeah!  ‘Cause it was imperfect.  If you knew everything – some of y’all sayin, “Well, I may not have made this decision” – yeah!  Because you didn’t know.  Look at your neighbor and say, “I just didn’t know.”  

DR. GRACE: So we fall out of love—

PASTOR WIL: I didn’t know you was crazy.  (Laughter.)  I didn’t know you was deranged.  I didn’t know something was wrong with you!  I didn’t know you took the short bus, your mama didn’t tell me that!  I should have got a hint when I saw the helmet in the living room, but it never occurred to me!  (Laughter.)  Go ahead, baby. 

DR. GRACE: So we fall out of love, because we didn’t know it would be like this.

PASTOR WIL: There are the imperfections of childish behavior, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, and, what bothers us is because we’re looking at a grown person, physically 

DR. GRACE: Yes, yes. 

PASTOR WIL: But emotionally, they’re still immature.  When it comes to behavior, they’re still acting like a child, they haven’t matured, they’re immature, underdeveloped, still childish. 

DR. GRACE: Finally, there are the imperfections of not knowing the future, or how things will work out.

PASTOR WIL: It’s a puzzle and we can’t figure out how things are going to be, and so we struggle, and, and we think it’s never gonna change, it’s never gonna get any better, because we don’t know the future, and so all we have is our past, and if I’ve been going through the same thing over and over, then I start to feel like it’s never going to get any better, because I don’t know the end from the beginning, uh-huh, yes, yes, yes. 

DR. GRACE: So the person that keeps going from relationship to relationship, it’s because they’re living off immature emotional love, and their love is based on how they feel, on feelings.

PASTOR WIL: And, and so they never mature, they never grow, uh, uh, uh, in some cases they refuse to grow, they keep making the same mistakes over and over, that person that constantly gives up and quits because they are weary, “I just can’t take this no more, I can’t wait to see how things will eventually go.”  But God gave us a response and answer. 

DR. GRACE: Yes.  Love is victorious because it grows up. 

PASTOR WIL: So, uh, uh, and let’s talk about this.  He told us, he showed us three levels of immaturity.  The first thing that love does it is perfects us, everybody say perfect. Say it again, perfect.  Uh-huh.  1 Corinthians said, “But when that which is perfect is come” – that’s real love –“that which is imperfect, that which is in part, that which is not complete, shall be done away with.”  

DR. GRACE: God has a plan for our lives and He will perfect and finish it, what He started.

PASTOR WIL: The Lord will perfect that, that’s what David said, which concerneth you.  I need everybody in here to understand, if you’re going through something, if you’re struggling with something, if you’re struggling with, wherever you are, uh, uh, and, and God, and you are a child of God – look at your neighbor and say, “And I am” – when you are a child of God, remember I told you last week that you have a birthright called love, you have a birthright, so if God started something, you can be guaranteed that God’s going to finish it.  I don’t care how you feel about it, God’s promise is to finish it, so God will perfect that which concerneth me.  I need everybody to get that in your spirit.  Say that with me, say “God will perfect that which concerneth me.”  So, whatever in your life that’s about you, you must understand, God’s gonna finish the work, God’s gonna perfect it, that perfecting means that God’s gonna complete it, so, whether or not it’s my finances, my job, my career, my lover, my church, my ministry, my calling, God will perfect that which concerneth me, it’s a promise, it’s not a maybe, you don’t have to worry and wonder, it’s going to happen, so everybody push your neighbor, say, this is gonna happen now, this is gonna happen, this has got to happen, this is going to happen, God’s going to, number one, perfect us. 

DR. GRACE: And you know what I love about God is that we can count on Him.  He never fails.  He knows the end and that’s why we don’t have to worry about the end, you know, we don’t have to leave a relationship because we’re just not sure how it’s gonna turn out, because we, we are confident, there is no shadow of a doubt that when we belong to God, everything about us concerns Him.  And so, no matter what we might be facing, we might look like we’re going under, but we know, we’re guaranteed, we’re not going to die, because God knows the end, amen, and some way somehow He’s gonna bring us out.  I want you to look at your neighbor and I want you to say, “Neighbor, God finishes what He starts,” amen, I know He started something in you, amen, something’s been prophesied over your life, amen, from Genesis to, um, Revelation, the word of God hath given us over two thousand promises, and I guarantee you, all of those promises have your name on it, amen.  If you would just believe God and trust in Him, amen, and not in the circumstances, God finishes what He starts.

PASTOR WIL: So, when it comes to this first point, love grows up, the first thing we want you to know is God’s going to perfect it.  Number two, God’s going to mature it, everybody say mature.  Uh, uh, the Bible says when I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child, but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 

DR. GRACE: Too many people are stuck on them, and not on the meat of the word of God.

PASTOR WIL: Paul said one man planteth, another one watereth, but it is God that brings about increase.  See, this is why we’ve got to stop trying to make people grow up.  Some of y’all are frustrated because the people, the careers, the jobs, the workplaces, the churches, the church folk, the leaders are still acting childish.  And so now, you are trying to make them grow up.  You can’t make a person grow up, that’s not your job.  Your job is to plant and water, somebody say “Plant, water,” plant seeds, water those seeds, plant seeds, water those seeds.  But you can’t make a person grow up.  If you scream at ‘em, they’re not gonna grow up, if you holler at ‘em, they’re not gonna grow up, if you get an attitude, they’re not gonna grow up, if you walk around not talkin’ for three days, they’re not gonna grow up.  I’m preachin’ all by myself, let me go over here since y’all ain’t workin’ with me.  If you act like you want to act, if you say, “Okay, you’re gonna be a child, I’m gonna be a child, if you put your lip out, I’m gonna put my lip out, if you say na-na-na-na I’m gonna say ya-ya-ya-ya,” no, that ain’t gonna make ‘em grow up!  It may make you digress and become a child, like them – oh, I’m going to preach right there – it may start making you act childish, but you can’t make another person grow up.  All you can do is plant and water, take God’s love, plant a seed, take God’s love, throw some water, take God’s love, plant a seed, take God’s love, show the love of God.  Why?  ‘Cause God’s love is big, God’s love is powerful, God’s love is great, God’s love is awesome, and when they actin’ crazy, just know that you’re dealing with a child.   

Now, please don’t go home and call them a child.  (Laughter.)  Please don’t go to work and say, “You babies in here, y’all need to grow up.”  I just told you, you can’t make folk grow up.  All you can do is plant and water, and let God do the increasing, and look at your neighbor and say, “He’s gonna do it.”  Say it again, “He’s gonna do it.”  Just because a person don’t grow like you want ‘em to grow, when you want ‘em to grow, where you want ‘em to grow, don’t mean they ain’t growin’, preach right there, Pastor Wil!   

There’s something called the Japanese palm tree.  The Japanese palm tree, when you plant it in the ground, you can plant it and water it and plant it and water it and in the first year, it’ll look, it’ll come up out the ground and look just like that, just a little bitty nub.  Two years later, it’ll still look like a little bitty nub, just a little bit fatter but still in the ground, you’re gonna think, Lord, does this tree ever grow?  Three years later, it still looks like a little nub, but after that third year, that joker will spring up sixteen feet in one year.   

Okay, okay, I just preached to somebody, ‘cause somebody’s in their third year, God’s gettin’ ready to blow something up, God’s gettin’ ready to take you to a whole ‘nother level, you been stuck, you been struggling, you been stressing out, and God said, in 2017, some of ya’ll gonna spring up and I’m gonna preach by myself, some of y’all getting ready to go to another level in 2017, that’s gonna blow everybody’s mind, you gonna stretch, you gonna grow, you gonna magnify, because love never quits and never gives up, it finishes what it starts!  Y’all give God a great big hand, praise right there. 


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DR. GRACE: And God’s love shows us.

PASTOR WIL: So, everybody say, “It perfects us, it matures us, and it shows us.”  

DR. GRACE: 1 Corinthians 13 and 12, it says, “Now we see through a glass darkly, but then face to face, now I know in part, but then I shall know, even as I also am known.”

PASTOR WIL: See, right now, I can’t figure this out, right now I don’t understand, right now I don’t get it, I don’t understand why God would allow this to happen to me, I don’t understand why I gotta go through this valley, I don’t understand why I’m going through this fire, it doesn’t make a lot of sense, it doesn’t make a lot of sense, it doesn’t make a lot of sense.  But eyes have not seen, God says, ears have not heard, God says.  Neither has it entered into the hearts of men the things that God has prepared.  See, you don’t know what He’s prepared, but I know He’s prepared something, because His word promises that He’s prepared something, so the fact that you can’t see it should not allow you to quit and to give up.  Know that you’re planting, know that you’re watering, and eventually, God’s going to show it to you, he’s going to bring it to, so that you can see it.  But God ain’t just gonna bring it so that you can see it…  

DR. GRACE: Amen, amen, yes. 

PASTOR WIL: Let me tell y’all something, what love’s getting ready to do for some of y’all.  See, other people been acting immature, going from relationship to relationship, ministry to ministry, religion to religion, stuff to stuff, but you gonna hang in there. 

DR. GRACE: Yes. 

PASTOR WIL: And you gonna stay right there. 

DR. GRACE: Yes. 

PASTOR WIL: And you gonna prove God’s love. 

DR. GRACE: Oh, yes. 

PASTOR WIL: And God ain’t gonna let you walk around being ashamed for the rest of your life.  See, some people are laughing at you in your imperfect state, some people are joking about you in your imperfect state, some people are whispering about your mess in your perfect state, in your imperfect state, some people are gossiping about you in your imperfect state, but because you’re gonna stay right there, and let God’s love finish what it started, because you’re gonna stay right there, and let God’s love finish what it started, God’s gonna say, you’re gonna be the person that says, “For I reckon that the suffering of this present time is not worthy to be compared to the glory.”  Look at your neighbor and say, “Some glory is coming, some glory is coming.”  So God is not gonna just show it to me, but he’s gonna lead some of y’all around so you can see it, too.  He’s gonna lead some of your enemies around, so they can see the glory of God, He’s gonna lead some of your haters around and some of your gossip around, so they can see that eyes have not seen, ears have not heard, He that hasn’t entered the hearts of men, the things that God has prepared for them, look at your neighbor and say, “Neighbor, God’s gonna show up, and show out,” and say, “You wanna know why, neighbor?  Because love always grows up.”  Give God a great big praise right there.  

DR. GRACE: And, and, I’m at the point in my life with the Lord right now where I don’t have to see it as long as God sees it, you know?  Because I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that God is working it out for me right now, amen, so I don’t have to worry about how it’s gonna happen, I don’t have to worry about when it’s gonna happen, amen, all I gotta do is just give, put my trust in God, because I see God working it out, I see him working it out for some of you right now, amen, you’ve gone from year to year and you’ve been struggling with the same thing, amen, but I believe that we’re in the season and the climate now that things are about to change, amen, it’s about to turn around for some of us right now, and the enemy sees that as well, and that’s the reason why we can’t be weary.  The word of God says, “Let us not be weary in well-doing, because in due season, you shall reap,” so you might be giving up when God is getting ready to do something, you might be throwing in the towel when God is getting ready to go full force and work for you, amen, so you can’t allow yourself to become tired, because God is working it out for you. 

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