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The Cost of Love from the Mind (Thoughtful Power)

PASTOR WIL: Let’s move into this second point, Dr. Grace.  The cost of love from the heart is your emotional power.  The second one is your thoughtful power: the cost of love from your mind.  

DR. GRACE: So, 1 Corinthians 13:2, and it says, “And thou— though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not love, I am nothing.”

PASTOR WIL: The second thing that Paul is teaching us is that the cost of love is that, it’s more than what you know.  

Have you ever met a person that knew the Bible better than you, but didn’t live a bit of holiness?  (Laughter.)  Am I talkin’ to anybody in here?  Have you ever met a person that, they always had all the answers, but it never rebounded back to them in their behavior?  Can I preach in here?  They could teach you under the bus — but they couldn’t live worth a lick.  Couldn’t live worth a dime.   

I’m, I’m preachin’ right now.  And see, maybe this is just fundamental with me, but I believe that a person ought to live what they preach about.  (Cheering.)  I think that’s the biggest challenge with the church as it relates to the world today, ‘cause the world has heard our message, but they don’t see our behavior.  They’ve heard us talking all this stuff, but we ain’t living it.  

Let me preach to some parents in here.  See, y’all put on for us, but your kids see what you’re doing at home.  

 DR. GRACE: Absolutely.  Absolutely.  

PASTOR WIL: Okay, y’all ain’t workin’ with me.  I know the door’s closed, but they can hear you cussin’ you, cussin’, cussin’ each other out.  (Laughter.)  Y’all ain’t workin’ with a brother right now.   

The people see our behavior at work.  Our friends and family, they see us.  Now, I need y’all get this.  Now, this is important, because they have knowledge.  See, it’s one thing to have knowledge, but when you have love with that knowledge— oh, y’all ain’t workin’ with me.   

See — and, and this is important to me, I need y’all to hear me — one of the reasons that I feel so passionate about loving my wife, about loving the members, about loving my God, is because if I talk it and don’t live it — y’all ain’t catchin’ this — it’s gonna reflect negatively on what I’m sayin’.  It’s going to reflect negatively on my God.  It’s gonna reflect negatively on what I really believe life is all about.   

I tell people all the time, oh, y’all do understand that I actually believe the words that are coming out of my mouth.  I’m not preachin’ to impress anybody.  I’m preaching what I believe in my heart, and therefore, I live it, I practice it.  I’m not saying I’m perfect, I’m saying I live and practice what I preach.  And I do it because I love people, I love God.   

Do you know how many people have been turned off from God because of our behavior?  Let me say that one more time.  Y’all shuttin’ down on me.  People have been turned off from God because we talk God, but we didn’t live God.  And because we didn’t live God, they got turned off from God.  But if you really love God, and love them people—  

Y’all still ain’t catchin’ this.  Dr. Grace?  

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DR. GRACE: So, I may know that my husband loves something, and if I don’t love him, then that knowledge is useless.  So, everybody knows that Pastor loves shrimp.  (Laughter.) So, everybody knows that in our household, at least one day a week, there’s gonna be some shrimp.  (Laughter.) Right?   

Moving away from food, my husband loves to be respected.  And so, I find ways to show him how much I respect him.  I will tell it to him, and then, you know, sometimes I will show it to him, sometimes I’ll write it to him, but I find different ways to express it from my heart, so that he knows that, and he won’t have to wonder whether or not my wife respects me, because he can say, well, yes, she respects me because she does this, she says this, she’s written this, and she really backs it up, with, not just her words, but her actions.  She has demonstrated that she truly respects me.  

PASTOR WIL: And so, when Paul says, “Though I have the gift of prophecy,” what he’s saying is, “If I have the knowledge, but I don’t do anything about that knowledge, that says that I don’t really have love about that.”  And, and so, what Grace is saying is, because I know who my husband is, what he likes — because I know who my wife is, what she likes — then I need to act on that.  Don’t just have the knowledge, don’t just have the gifts, there’s people that operate in the gifts, but you gotta have love behind that gift, you gotta have love behind that knowledge, and, and, and this is what makes the difference, because now that I know…  

Sometimes I wonder.  Sometimes I wonder.  “Now hold on, really?  You know that bothers your mate, and you’re still gonna keep doin’ it?”  That’s knowledge without love.   

You know that there are certain people on your job that act a certain kind of way.  Oh, I’m preachin’ all by myself, y’all ain’t workin’ with me.   

Somebody say, “Love.”  Love…  Having knowledge without love is useless, is what he’s saying here.  

We…  This is important, that every Christian become what I call “thoughtful in their love.”  Think about your love.  Think, and, and do something to act on it.  We can’t just think, we have to be filled.  We have to be filled with love, uh-huh. 

 DR. GRACE: So, the cost of love is that it must come from the mind.  We must meditate on it.  We must make conscious decisions to do something with the knowledge that we have.  

PASTOR WIL: And so, you remember what God said, “Thou shalt love the Lord with all thy heart.”  That’s the emotional part, are y’all with me?  And then He said “with all thy soul and with all thy mind,” that’s the thoughtful part.  So what Dr. Grace and I are trying to tell people, what we’re trying to show people is, do you think about how you’re gonna demonstrate love?  And do you act on those thoughts?  Do you think about it, and then act on it?  So the cost of love is that it must come from your heart, and it must come from your mind.  

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